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PREFACE
TOUCH-1
TOUCH-2
TOUCH-3 (begin)
TOUCH-3 (end)
TOUCH-4 (begin)
TOUCH-4 (end)
SMELL-1
SMELL-2
SMELL-3.1
SMELL-3.2
SMELL-3.3
SMELL-3.4
SMELL-3.5
SMELL-4 (begin)
SMELL-4 (end)
SMELL-5
HEARING-1
HEARING-2
HEARING-3
VISION-1.1
VISION-1.2
VISION-1.3
VISION-2.1
VISION-2.2
VISION-2.3
VISION-2.4
VISION-3
VISION-4
VISION-5
APPENDIX A
APPENDIX B HISTORY-1
APPENDIX B HISTORY-2.1
APPENDIX B HISTORY-2.2
APPENDIX B HISTORY-2.3
APPENDIX B HISTORY-3.1
APPENDIX B HISTORY-3.2
INDEX OF AUTHORS

entertain feelings of great affection toward my wife. We are well 

suited to one another; she is a woman of character and 

intelligence; she looks after my home well, is a sensible and 

devoted mother, and understands me. I have never met a woman I 

would have sooner married. We have many tastes and likings in 

common, and--what is not possible with most women--I can, as a 

rule, speak to her about my feelings and find a listener who 

understands. 

 

"On the other hand, all passion and sentiment have died out. It 

seems to me that this is inevitable. Perhaps it is a good thing 

this should be so. If men and women remained in the state of 

erotic excitement they are in when they marry, the business and 

work of the world would go hang. Unfortunately, in my case this 

very erotic excitement is the chief thing in life that appeals to 

me! 

 

"The factors that in my case have produced this death of passion 

and sentiment are as follows:-- 

 

"1. Familiarity. When one is continually in the company of a 

person all novelty dies out. In the case of husband and wife, the 

husband sees his wife every day; at all times and seasons; 

dressed, undressed; ill; good tempered, bad tempered. He sees her 

wash and perform other functions; he sees her naked whenever he 

likes; he can have intercourse with her whenever he feels 

inclined. How can love (as I use the expression--i.e., sexual 

passion) continue? 

 

"2. Satiety. I am of a 'hot,' sensual disposition, inclined to 

excess, as far as my health and nerves are concerned. The 

appetite gets jaded. 

 

"3. Absence of strong sexual reciprocity on the part of my wife. 

I have referred to this above. She likes intercourse, but she is 

never outwardly demonstrative. She has naturally a chaste mind. 

She never is guilty of those little indecencies which affect some 

men a great deal. She does not like talking of these things; and 

she tells me that if I died, she would never want to have 

intercourse again with anyone. At times, especially recently, she 

has even asked me to have intercourse with her, or to masturbate 

her; but it is seldom that the orgasm occurs contemporaneously. 

In this respect she is different from other women I knew, in whom 

the mere fact that the orgasm was occurring in me at once 

produced it in them. At the same time I doubt whether even strong 

sexual reciprocity would have retained my passion for long. 

 

"4. During the early years of our married life money worries 

caused at times disagreements, reproaches and quarrels. Passion 

and sentiment are fragile and cannot stand these things. 

 

"5. The fact that I had already had other women diminished the 

feeling of awe with which many regard the sexual act and the 

violation of sexual conventions. 

 

"6. Loss of beauty. Loss of figure is, I fear, inseparable from 


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